In speaking to folks about happiness and good habits, folks generally discuss “laziness.” Both they are saying, “I’m lazy” or they are saying, “That particular person is being lazy.”
However I believe it’s unhelpful to consider “laziness.”
It appears to me that when folks (together with ourselves) seem lazy, there are extra useful explanations. In my statement, different issues could also be happening:
Avoidance: There’s one thing that an individual ought to do, however they’re avoiding it. This particular person ought to work, however is avoiding doing powerful evaluation, so is spending hours watching Sport of Thrones clips on YouTube. That particular person ought to go to remedy, however doesn’t wish to face unfavourable emotions, so retains canceling appointments.
Accountability: In my “4 Tendencies” persona framework, Obligers are individuals who want outer accountability to satisfy inside expectations. In the event that they wish to train, they want to join a category, work out with a coach, elevate cash for a charity, be a job mannequin for another person, and so on. (Efficient accountability methods differ amongst Obligers.) If Obligers lack outer accountability, they received’t comply with by means of. This will appear like laziness, however as quickly as accountability is established, Obligers do comply with by means of.
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Exhaustion: Generally folks get drained and overwhelmed, and so they merely can’t muster up the power to do something—not even one thing small, not even one thing enjoyable. So they only do no matter exercise that feels least taxing to them—for example, scroll by means of social media, watch TV, or play a video-game.
Desire: One particular person’s laziness is one other particular person’s alternative. A good friend stated of his son, “He’s so lazy. He may very well be out taking part in basketball together with his associates, however as a substitute, he lies on the couch, simply studying.” I additionally think about one other guardian saying of a kid, “He’s so lazy. He may very well be studying and bettering his thoughts, and as a substitute, he’s simply operating round together with his associates.”
As all the time, once we face a happiness stumbling block, it’s helpful to establish the issue. In the event you’re calling your self “lazy,” what’s happening?
Do you should discover a technique to get began, to get accountability, or to get extra relaxation? Or is that “laziness” really an indication that two folks have completely different values?
In the event you’ve referred to as your self lazy, or end up saying that different persons are being lazy, I’d be curious to know the context.