My first sex The toy was a bright blue dildo. I was about 19 years old, and as a college student in New Hampshire, I did what anyone in my position would do: took it to the nearest town to find a sex shop. With my best friend, I jetted so fast from the world of condoms on Newbury Street that I only had time to grab the first sex toy and pay for it, keeping my head down the entire time. That said, the early 2000s were different when it came to sex toy acceptance.
In my small town mind, they were something not to be discussed and the very definition of the word taboo. But they weren’t prohibitive enough to stop me from buying his exaggerated veins and head-battery-powered blue pursuit. I was embarrassed by it from day one, even more so, with zero understanding of how to get out of it.
With age came strategy
As I got to know my body better, by myself or during partnered sex, with the other toy I bought, I realized. As much as I love penetration with my partner(s), I don’t particularly enjoy dildos. I found the most immoral, poorly designed, and because it wouldn’t be until my late 30s that I finally had an orgasm, at the pleasure level, from G-spot simulation, they just weren’t for me. That didn’t stop me from trying to get something out of them, especially when I started writing about sexual wellness and suddenly had the world of sex toys and the latest innovations at my fingertips.
My feelings about dildos changed very quickly Lilo Gigi 3. Finally, an internal dildo with a flattened head, as opposed to a cone shape, means it covers more of the G-spot area. Breaking news, that’s exactly what I need after all this time. While many other dildos have rounded heads, which many people love, the Gigi 3’s flat head is what really sets it apart.
It’s not just the shape of the head, but the way it disperses the stimulus. Because the eight vibration modes are delivered through the flattened head, the sensations are more intense and sharp, meaning I can feel them branching out and reaching more nerve endings. People with vulvas are pretty much taught that when it comes to sexual pleasure, the focus should be on the clitoris or the G-spot—or both—but the reality is that the entire region is full of nerve endings. Therefore, individuals with vulvas can experience orgasms outside of these two zones, such as through the A-spot (posterior fornix) and the U-spot (urethral sponge).
When size matters
I’m not a size queen. I’m the first to admit that when it comes to external vibrators, smaller is better. However, when it comes to internal vibrators, the size and shape of the shaft matter. Gigi 3G is the ideal size for spot stimulation. Even those who have yet to officially find their G-spot can’t possibly miss it when using the Gigi 3 because the shaft’s length and slight arc flattens its head exactly where everyone with a vulva wants it. For me, I like to put a few drops of water-based lube on the Gigi 3’s head and shaft, ease myself in, then slide it in. From there, I can melt into the moment without fiddling with buttons (the Gigi 3 is under app control).
When I’m not in the mood for penetrative play, the Gigi 3’s flat head is great for direct clitoral stimulation or teasing other parts of my vulva. As I’ve learned, just because the labia doesn’t have as many nerve endings as the clitoris doesn’t mean it likes to be ignored.
Is the Lilo Gigi 3 my favorite sex toy? No, depending on the day and my mood, my favorite sex toys and vibrators change. But, if you’re with a vulva that has never liked dildos, the Gigi 3 could be your ticket to sexual pleasure. It can also hit that spot if you prefer clitoral stimulation, but want the vibrations to encompass more than just the outer tip of the clit. Although Gigi 3 can be used anywhere, internally and externally, if you have a vulva, it’s a must.